Every New Year there is a bombardment of media noise about how you need to set up your New Year's resolutions. In my experience, resolutions are always so resolute. It seems that they can set us up for this
hyper to do list thing that is unsettling.
I like to work with a more feasible approach similar to the program I use, by thinking about what I really want to accomplish and then breaking this down into doable increments. There will be "weight loss challenges" and biggest losers everywhere you turn, and for some this is a great way to get started, working with a group is powerful. Problem is what if you have no patterns established for keeping the weight off? That’s why it’s so important to learn how to eat for life and not get stuck on the diet treadmill, you need follow through and solid habits. If dieting was so easy there wouldn't be 1. 2 million diet books out there telling us how to cut out carbs, or eat all the meat you want, go vegetarian or vegan or better yet, stand on your head so the food never reaches your stomach.
My weight has been a struggle for me ever sense I entered my teens. This was the beginning of developing a distorted body image that I carried with me through the years. I did some terrible things to myself in order to make my body what I thought it should be which was rail thin like my friends. No one had hips and muscular legs in my group, I hated it, but it was normal for me! I didn't realize that I was perfectly fine being who I was. There were diet pills, yo-yo weight gain and loss, starving and then binging, exercising until I almost dropped (all aerobics of course). I was always searching for perfection.
Just for the record I have gained and lost over 150 pounds. I've been overweight and dangerously underweight. I truly have been there, done that. I ate processed foods for years, sometimes drank too much and was addicted to sugar. I didn't even know how to lift a weight. I also ended up getting very sick and was barely surviving; it was a very sad time for me.
By the grace of God, I connected with a person who is similar to who I am right now. She was a former professor of Nutrition and Health coach, Susan Sly, and I owe her my life. I didn't get better right away, I didn't cure my poor body image in a week, I didn't learn how to eat and thrive in a matter of days. It took me many months and years, I'm still learning and always will be. But I listened to her as she guided me to a healthier way of living.
I pulled all my knowledge together in order to help others in a way that I was helped. Ninety percent of the time, which is all you really need to target for, I no longer binge or over drink, I no longer eat processed foods and I don't go on "diets" anymore. My forte is not only helping others to lose weight, but creating paths for people to eat real foods and to incorporate weights into their workouts on a regular basis. The lessons I've learned are worth teaching to others.
When I think about this New Year, I don't want to make iron clad rules to live by but instead I want to do what I know works.
What about you? What would you like to do with the New Year to come?
This year instead of making a "resolution" why not give yourself a real gift - the gift of letting go of doing things that no longer work for you, no longer make you happy. Why not remove obstacles that are holding you back from being the person you were meant to be. This is a time for self-reflection and growth, a time to expand not your waist, but your life.